KITTEN TALK 4 : What is DDLG ? Part 1
I already know by the title a lot of yall going to be looking at this like
or maybe
But hold up ! This post is actually going to be educational if anything.
If you're a follower of my brand, you would notice on the Instagram bio that we are an Asian Pop Culture & DDLG inspired brand.
And some followers commented in our story posts that they want me to go into depth about DDLG and I am here to provide some education, because I know many people have negative views and misconceptions on BDSM ( DDLG being a community within it ) and I have done some research to present to you.
So what is BDSM ?
BDSM involves Bondage , Discipline , Dominance, Submission, Sadism and Masochism.
Maybe you remember when Fifty Shades of Grey movies came out, I remember I sat down and watched with a friend but I don't really remember it lol. I do remember around me was mixed feelings about it ? Some feel it did not represent BDSM lifestyles in a positive mindset.
Did I just see lifestyle ? Did you ?
Yes it can be a lifestyle. There are so many various relationships and dynamics within it. We can be here for hours really talking about it.
And I want to EMPHASIZE that no act of real BDSM is done without consent. The core principle is consent. These relationships involve partners thoroughly communicating with one another needs, wants and what they like or don't like. Limits -hard and soft and whatever else that's agreed on. These people aren't doing anything to hurt each other. Whatever they do with one another has been spoken about and agreed on ideally sexual and non-sexual.
So what exactly is DDLG ?
DDLG stands for Daddy Dom/ Little Girl. It basically involves a dominant figure who is the " caretaker" of the submissive girl. I want to mention that there is such thing as DDLB ( Daddy Dom/ Little Boy) . Irrespectively of the gender of both parties, the relationship consists of a dominant and a submissive. There are " Switches" those that can switch between roles.
These relationships usually serve as an " escape" from everyday life. For example, someone who may have a demanding/ tough life- a hard working business owner or any important position with endless deadlines and heavy work load, personal or familial issues, etc may lean towards being a submissive role because they can release the stresses of the day and let someone else take charge. It's a way to forget the stresses of the day. Sometimes may be certain rules, activities, rewards etc - sexual and non-sexual.
The escape I refer to especially for littles is called " Little Space". Its when the "little " age regresses to a younger mind, and basically relinquish some control to the " dominant" or " caretaker" partner. This goes in hand to the ABDL community, but that's a topic for another time.
No I know a lot of people have read these past paragraphs and may be confused or some people may even want to argue that DDLG promotes or cosigns pedophilia.
And I have seen such a topic discussed on social media and forums I have come across. I am not here to invalidate whatever opinions people may have, I actually understand where some people may think such a thing.
But my point of this post ( and many more will follow for this topic) is to give some context and emphasize from research I have made personally, I will conclude that DDLG does not mean people practicing are pedophiles. A lot of people say the regression helps them deal and heal from everyday problems and traumas.
Also to add that BDSM/ the kink community ISN'T for minors. Minors is a big NO NO. Children can not consent point blank.
I will provide some resources down below for you guys to read over, and I encourage if this is a topic you're interested in learning more about, do some research.
I'm open to all opinions so feel free to comment down below your thoughts. Civil discussion only please.
Thank you all for reading and supporting, like always see you on the next post !
Sources :
https://ddlgplayground.com/blogs/the-playground/what-is-ddlg
https://ddlgworld.net/blogs/ddlg-blog/what-is-ddlg-guide