KITTEN TALK 40: REBRANDING YOURSELF 💖
I've returned with yet another blog post!
I recently went to the ATEEZ concert (and had a balllll ) so if you're an ATINY like me, comment down below! (and you're a bad bitch at that btw)
Lately, I haven't been feeling a bit off. There's a point where you don't feel like yourself - you feel like something is emerging. You look at your life and assess it. Your sleep is probably fucked like mines been lately (or maybe you're extra sleepy). It's that nudge that’s telling you something is coming, and it's change.
A lot of us hear the word “change” and are deeply terrified of it. It can mean letting go of some things (or even people) so you can move on to your next phase in life. It can also mean discarding parts of yourself that no longer serve you. Change isn't comfortable because we see it as an end to the familiar, and we don't like to leave what's familiar sometimes. That's why we witness people who cling to the same old conditions in their life: toxic relationships, toxic friendships, unhealthy patterns and behaviors because it's a sense of safety and predictability; though it's a false comfort.
How many of us kept ourselves in cycles just because we didn't want to let something or someone go? Certain conditions we were around, such as an unstable home life, the ups and downs of adolescence, and/or dealing with things like addiction, abuse and uncertainty, made us adapt to uncomfortable conditions. But, because you adapted to it, you think it's okay, even when you leave the source of these issues. We can repeat the same cycles in different circumstances if we're not aware of our needs, boundaries and goals.
A "rebrand" is not just you reposting memes on Instagram about having a "hot girl summer" or "finding a sneaky link" - no. I mean, you can have those too, but this is ultimately a rebranding of yourself - mindset, thoughts and behaviors we are ready to let go of to live in a more spiritually elevated sense of self.
We can call this your sensual awakening of self.
This is a total reprogramming of ourselves that can seem nerve wrecking and daunting until I advise you on these reminders:
Accept change: Change is a constant in life. A lot of us fear change - we are scared to let go of what we know is extra weight. We can be scared to make that life-altering decision because it's moving us from what's familiar. We may have adopted cycles, behaviors and thought patterns from the past, and operated under them for so long that it's scary to think about NOT doing it anymore. But change doesn't stop no matter how hard you want to fight back - it'll happen. Resisting just makes the process x100 harder. Accept that change is constant, it's normal, and doesn't always mean doom and gloom. Think of all the good things that came from change: like leaving a toxic relationship, getting your dream job, making your first big sale, having more confidence, etc. Think of what you do now, and if that’s conducive to where you want to be; then see what you are capable of doing right now to match your desired self.
Create and give life to this "new" you: Get a pen and paper and write down who exactly is this new version of you. Write down her goals, her personality, her mindset. Get a journal and write entries as this new version of yourself. What is her daily routine like? Who are her friends? What is one goal she wants to achieve this year? What are her hobbies? Career plans? How does she see success for herself? What type of partner(s) does she want? Now that you have that list (and you can always add to it day to day), ACT like it! Dedicate time to learning how this version of you goes about life. Always reference it when you feel lost or stuck.
Ritual is your foundation: I prefer to say ritual, but you can also say "routine". We don’t have to be super strict on ourselves here. What is your ideal daily ritual or routine you can do every morning to start your day? This new version of you wakes up every morning doing what? Is it waking up a few minutes earlier before work to take your time drinking some coffee or is it making sure she's reading a book in bed instead of doomscrolling on social media for 2 hours? What does she do to make sure she’s starting off the day with intention and not just on auto mode hoping for the hours to speed by fast? Go onto your daily calendar now on your phone or planner to make a schedule to experiment with for the next week. Consistency is key here. Every day may look different - you'll be productive one day and may need to rest the next. You may feel irritated one day and happy to start your day the next. What matters is having a system that helps you center and recenter yourself when necessary.
Cultivate pleasure out of it: Change can feel scary. It can feel like you're drowning in overwhelming anxiety, pain, or even confusion. But that doesn’t mean every day is like that. There’ll be days you may want to be on your own, but that doesn’t mean total isolation from those who do love and care for us- make time for them too. Go out, explore, and do the things that make you feel pleasurable and happy to be alive. Savor your favorite popsicle flavor and say yes to fun. Everything you do, big or small, whether it's doing your backed up laundry or creating that business plan, takes you closer to whom you want to be.
As someone who has gone through many changes - and you may agree with this, too - we go through change daily. Who you were two years ago more than likely isn't the same person now. We don't really think about the daily shifts until we really think about it. That is to say we shouldn't fear change; it’s inevitable. Feel how you need to feel, cry when you need to cry, but also hold excitement because blessings are coming in, too.
***Journal Question: Write a diary entry from the point of view of this next level version of yourself. Use these questions for guidance: Who is she? What does she do? What is empowerment to her? How does she experience life as this new version of herself? How does she experience joy, pleasure and sensuality in her own way?
Feel free to share your thoughts with me via the comments or DM me at @prettysub_llc on Instagram! I look forward to reading all of your responses!
Bye for now!
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