KITTEN TALK 11: Orgasms
Hello Kittens!
So glad to be back to write another blog post.
If you haven't yet seen our latest Instagram post or read the title- YEP we're talking about orgasmssss.
First of all, do you know what an orgasm is ? What is it really? Did you know in fancy scientific terms, there is actually the orgasm ( sexual response) cycle?
There are multiple definitions, but generally an orgasm is the release of sexual tension, the height of sexual arousal.
Anyone can have an orgasm, it does not matter your sex/ gender, who you're with or if you never experienced one before or didn't know there are different types!
Let's get down to it!
What is the sexual response cycle?
Based on research by sex researchers William H. Masters and Virgina E. Johnson, the sexual response cycle seeked to explain the generalphases people go through during sexual activity.
We can get into more detail in future posts, but in general the cycle goes down like this:
1. Anticipation
2. Excitement
3. Plateau
4. Orgasm
5. Resolution
Anticipation is the first step and the start of the built up of sexual activity. An example would be making out in bed or the date before you head back to the room.
Excitement is stronger than the anticipation phase and this is where sexual activities have started. Physical symptoms such as erect penis/ engorged clitoris, flushed skin and increased heartrate are present.
Plateau is when you're experiencing sustained sexual pleasure, think of yourself or partner(s) rubbing or hitting the same spot over and over. This phase is more intense than the excitement phase.
Orgasm can be experienced once we get enough of the right stimulation from the plateau phase. Signs of an orgasm ( though there are much more than what will be listed) are : an even higher heartbeat rate, breathing rate, sounds of pleasure and an increased sense of closeness due to the release of dopamine.
Resolution is the aftermath of the orgasm. Your body will eventually calm down and you may find your body feeling sensitive or maybe even tired.
Now let's get into the different types of orgasms people experience!
| Type of Orgasm | Definition |
| Clitoral | You can often feel these orgasms on the surface of the body, like a tingly feeling along your skin, and in your brain. |
| Vaginal | These orgasms are deeper in the body and are usually accompanied by pulsations of the vaginal canal walls. When the G-spot — a specific spot about 2 inches inside the front vaginal wall — is stimulated, it can result in ejaculation. |
| Anal | During anal orgasm, the muscle contractions you feel will primarily be in the anal canal and around the anal sphincter. (And not inside the vagina). |
| Combo/ Blended | When the vagina and the clitoris are stimulated at the same time, it tends to result in a more explosive orgasm. Sometimes these are accompanied by full-body trembles and tremors. |
| Erogenous | Stimulating lesser-known erogenous parts of the body (ears, nipples, neck, elbows, knees, etc.) can cause a pleasurable release when kissed and played with. Some people describe the orgasm that follows as being more full-body, compared to other kinds of orgasms. |
| Convulsive | Convulsing orgasms are orgasms that result in the pelvic floor muscles convulsing over and over and over again really quickly. These orgasms usually happen after a long buildup(edging which we will get into later) |
So there are different types of orgasms people can experience, whether alone or with partner(s).
And this list isn't in any type of an order- an orgasm is an orgasm. I have definitely seen online where people debate about orgasms and its just silly to me. Yes I've even gone on PornHub and seen comments of women being ashamed they can't squirt. You are not any less of a person because you may not experience a certain type of orgasm. Long as you are having fun and feel pleasure- that is what matters.
You don't need a partner to experience orgasm. Explore your body, research and figure out what you like vs what you don't like. And if you do have a partner(s) communication is VERY important. People are not mind readers. Tell and show them what you like or don't like and don't be afraid to demonstrate for them. Faking it won't do you any favors.
And if you find yourself struggling to reach orgasm- it's nothing to be shamed about, communicate more with your partner(s) if you haven't, talk to a professional ( sex therapists exist), it may be a health issue or other underlying issue. But an orgasm isn't always REQUIRED to enjoy pleasure and time with yourself or a partner(s).
As always I linked resources down below for you guys to do further research. As always I love you all ! Stay tuned for Black Friday announcements coming soon xoxo.
Sources:
https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/types-of-orgasms#takeaway
https://www.prevention.com/sex/a20473328/types-of-orgasms/
https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/sexual-response-cycle#short-answer ( further explore the sexual response cycle)