KITTEN TALK 36: ALLOWING PLEASURE AND PLAY 💖

18 de marzo de 2025

Hellooooo and welcome back to my blog! I have recently returned from my Bahamas vacation, and I have to say I cannot wait until I get on my next cruise!

First of all, getting on a huge boat that will sail in the middle of the ocean, I thought I was going to have a freakout; I watched titanic as you can see lol. So, I was nervous about being out in the middle of nowhere and possible sinking lol.

But I can say throughout my whole trip that thought would come and go as fast as it came. I barely thought about the fact that I was in the middle of the ocean. I was too busy going to the pool, jacuzzi, having drinks, dancing, eating and shopping. If anything, it felt more like being at a huge mall or a busy shopping area.

Our room was super cute, clean and we had a good amount of closet space. We had a direct below view of the miniature central park inspired area they built on the ship. We didn't get the ocean view in case of me freaking out (but I am excited to have ocean views on our next one.)

We had boarded in Orlando and this cruise was to the Bahamas. Once I was really settled in, I thought about how fun this trip may be.

Like I said, I barely had scary thoughts about the ship, even on the days it was super windy, and you can feel the ship rocking a bit more.

But that's not to say the trip was completely smooth sailing (corny joke I know) and this is where we really get into it.

I found myself at the very beginning of the trip a bit moody and snappy. I was easily getting agitated. It was pointed out to me, and I was realizing how not allowing myself to just relax and not worry about anything was negatively affecting the trip. Being away from my home/ comfort zone was allowing me to see my behavior outside of what I am used to doing. Vacation helped me realize that back home, I am overly stressing and not allowing myself to fully engage in life sometimes because I am so worried about tasks and goals.

And that is not to say that having goals or responsibilities is a bad thing and wanting to accomplish them is something to not focus on- but overthinking and unhealthy coping mechanisms will negatively impact you.

This society pushes on us hyper-productivity that spreads us out thin. They don't say stress is the number one killer for no reason. Especially as women, where we are being pulled in all types of directions- career, motherhood, relationships, spirituality etc. it's easy to feel bad: if you have always operated your life around the idea that you must always be on work mode or have something to prove that you are seen as "valuable" is going to lead to burnout.

Sometimes the most productive thing is to relax. Sometimes the most productive thing is to think of nothing and enjoy the sounds of the ocean. Sometimes it's talking to our ancestors and sometimes it's napping. Sometimes it's going to a party or watching a movie.

The idea that we constantly have to be productive or fit a certain standard of lifestyle or living in order to be liked causes a spiritual sickness. When you are living life on survival mode constantly, when you do not have high self-esteem, when you are not living your life in a way that makes you happy; you are slowly putting down your spirit. So many people crash out because they are getting tired of the pressure. It one day just all explodes for everyone to see but outsiders who don't understand that this is going on are baffled.

I wasn't allowing myself to just be in the moment. To turn off worries and stress and just enjoy the nice ass Caribbean weather. I had to learn that the answers I need will come and the days keep going and I am here to have a good time! What is the use of vacation, if I am stressing the whole time and causing discomfort?

I got to the root of my own issues it seemed, since my mind became clearer, the more I allowed the thoughts to pass, for me to express how I felt and why and allow myself to enjoy the space of a relationship where I am free to share my not only good times and joy but also the tough things that can come up in relationships- especially when you are healing and navigating from past negative experiences,

To be a woman who lives in her feminine energy, constantly needing to "produce" is not natural. We are meant to be more in flow. By flow I mean the path of least resistance or least struggle. We have been taught for so long that life must be hard, depressing, and we must prove ourselves in some capacity to be considered valuable - whether that's in jobs, career, school, family, marriage etc.

And it's not that we shouldn't strive in some ways to be good people, or find ways to improve the lives of others besides ourselves, but I am saying that society has done a good job at making us go into overdrive and burn ourselves out from exhaustion, anxiety and sometimes even creating a personality that hides our true selves because of fear of judgement.

Like give the ship as an example, if the waters are way too bumpy and its high winds- it'll be hard to safely navigate the ship to its next destination. You will probably get super nervous if the ship is rocking super hard, no? And you might have some worries, especially if you happened to watch a scary movie about ships sinking or you tend to overthink.

When the waters are calmer, you barely feel the rocking. Your mind has to be the same way- calm. But that can be hard especially when we have grown to our nervous system being on overdrive.

When I found myself thinking about my business or another thing to worry about, it would bother me for a bit, but I learned to just let the thoughts go. My mind went blank. I had no anxious thoughts, and it was strange for a bit, but I let myself be led by the fact I deserve to enjoy my time and relax.

I am learning that the more I let go and allow myself to not always know " the next move" or that I always need to be busy in order to feel I am a successful person. I do not have anything to prove to others but myself.

This is my 5H profection year (I am an astrology girlie) and if you aren't aware, the 5th house in astrology is ruled by pleasure, creativity, romance/ dating, recognition, confidence and children. This year is a year that all those themes can be of a greater focus in your life. Basically, I am meant to have fun this year literally! I am meant to be present and experience more pleasure in my life in all areas- my career, romance, travel, hobbies etc.

I can be an overthinker at times. I can be overly critical of myself or feel I must always be doing something.

This trip taught me that I need to let go, and the answers will come to me at the right time. That it's okay to shut off the mind and just have a good time.

Honoring my pleasure made life just feel more fun exciting. I felt at ease and that everything I was worried about is for when I come back, in a much clearer head space.

Vacation is something us women sometimes feel we don't deserve, we're so busy building careers, maintaining relationships, working on improving ourselves that we forget that life is meant to be lived. We forget it's okay to do NOTHING sometimes and just enjoy living. Enjoy taking our time sipping coffee or a face mask while reading a book.

I recognized my snappiness or annoyance at minor things showed me that I just need to relax lol. As someone who's into and has talked about manifestation and just calling in a life of pleasure- learning to relax and let the fuck go is important.

A staycation can be great too, but I highly advise to go to more out to further places if you can. Whether it's another state (if you're in the US) or another country. Traveling can be very beneficial; it helps build our confidence by exploring outside our comfort zone, improves our mental health, encourages presence and promotes self-discovery.

Me finally taking the moment to just be present and in the moments of our vacation adventure helped my nervous system relax. I was sipping champagne, shopping, going to events, parties and moments of silence out on the balcony.

There was a moment me and my boyfriend were sitting on the balcony, and I felt my body relax and my eyes closing, not exactly sleeping but in this like meditative state of just enjoying the night breeze and the sounds of the ocean and nightlife occurring on the ship. I was like that meme:

Even though I was on the second largest ship in the world: Utopia of the Seas; it just felt like I was in this calm bubble of peace. The rest of my trip I was just focused on having fun, eating amazing food and enjoying time with family.

I enjoyed not hyper fixating on work or social media or other things I had going on. And I realized that I want to be off my phone more! And actually, go out and experience the world more than ever before. I, like many of us probably do, doom scroll or are used to seeing people posted up and living their lives, yet we aren't even doing that for ourselves.

And when you start to have that urge to really live your life instead of wishing it was like so and so persons; that's when you really tap into pleasure and abundance. You're no longer comparing or wishing, because you now start to believe that you can also live a fulfilling pleasurable life.

When you are tapped into and feeding the part of you that wants joy and pleasure, abundance follows.

A big part of my teaching and philosophy is that manifestation works when you are more concerned about how you feel and how to feel good and focus on faith, instead of the negative what- ifs that put your nervous system in overdrive because you have convinced yourself that worrying is going to give you the solution. We've been told that not worrying is " irresponsible" or " strange".

Being on this trip reminded me- I deserve this. I deserve an easy wealthy lifestyle. I deserved to shut my mind off and just stare out into the ocean horizon. I was reminded how this is how I am supposed to live my life, and I am letting anxiety control me instead of having faith. A break from my routine showed me ways where I have not been acting in the best interest of myself and that I should let loose more often.

And when you get that information about yourself, you have to make a choice. Even not making a choice is a choice. But my choice after this was to not let anxiety control me so much and really start to be present in life. I want pleasure in my life. I want to wake up and go about my days peacefully doing what I enjoy and reading all the sexology, dystopian futuristic and till my heart's content.

So, I encourage that you take from this that your pleasure and enjoyment in life is important and that though life has its lessons, it should not be seen as something that should be miserable and depressing. When we recognize behaviors and thoughts that are not in our best interest, we have a choice in allowing rest, play and pleasure.

I can already feel Spring coming around and so I encourage you to get a bucket list going and see ways you can allow more pleasure into your life. Go on an adventure, travel, read, spend time with family or party the night away.

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And with that, wherever you are I wish you the best 💖